Coaching and mindfulness: how to do
As illustrated, coaching is a relation between two contractors: the coach, offering a service and the coachee, receiving it. In some cases, the coachee can also be a group, either formal or informal.
The first session, dealing with the coaching relationship and contract, is devoted to explain the method.
We already stated that the coaching program occurs in stage and that is van be finished in any moment. The coach, indeed, does not prescribe anything, does not sets objectives; he helps the coachee to clarify his goals and independently set objectives. It may also happens that the coachee is convinced to have an objective, to realise that it was instead a different maybe, also much simpler thing. And so, he may decide that he definitely does not need coaching anymore. On the other hand, the coach may realise that the coachee needs something different: in this case, he will openly tell to the coachee. This is the fun in coaching: the relationship is free, any can be ended in any moment.
It may also happen to start with an objective, to switch to a different one. Or that what initially looked as an objective then appears as a simple instrument. And much more.
On the thread is loosened, then the “training” phase follows. The objective must be however attainable, otherwise the risk is not to get through. But the coachee may need some “training”; the coach can therefore assign some homework and invite to verifications along the way.
All this occurs in different sessions, which number cannot be fixed is advance. Now we get acquainted to remote sessions, that may work well, and can also contribute to overcome some diffidence. However, in person sessions are far more potent.
You may often read some attributes, accompanying the word “coaching”. In my opinion, the substantial difference is between:
– coaching directly committed by individuals or, on the other hand, by organisations and firms
– in the first case, we can still distinguish between coaching addressed to professional or working problems, or to different aspects of the individual life, even if the difference is often not so clear-cut.
Life coaching or mental coaching are synonym expressions, generally referred to coaching applied to individual problems. This is the still less defined and, perhaps, more difficult category, at least because of the fact that the objective, either final or intermediate, are often not easily quantifiable with respect, as an example , to business or sport coaching.
This is however my may field of work (see also at the end: Nature coaching).
Mindfulness or presence, is a status, that must be individually attained. However, present time lifestyles make perhaps most people being unaware of this. It maybe therefore useful a help, aimed at suggesting how to attain this status. Also in this case, it is a matter of a relationship between a facilitator and a client.
So, how to “do” mindfulness. Not entering in too much details, generally the starting point is to bring the attention to some functions of everyday life, such, at first place, but not only, respiration. To do this, some formal methodologies do exist, called in this way since they are based on tested protocols that therefore work well, especially to begin. Many of these procedures are based on physical or sensory processes, easier to handle, but other, a bit more difficult to afford, also refer to thoughts.
There are also informal approaches, applicable ponce a basic confidence has been acquired; their advantage is their intrinsic flexibility, since they can be adapted to the available moments and individual attitudes and can also become ways of life.
“Learning” mindfulness also requires periodic sessions, once again to be decided within a free relations between the facilitator and the client. Mindfulness as well requires a constant training, to be maintained. It is rather evident the affinity with coaching, that we see here below.
Coaching and mindfulness
So, independently on its type, a coaching relation requires: a) to clear off possible initial confusion; b) to set a final or intermediate objectives; c) to organise actions to attain the objective. It is rather clear how the “presence” is fundamental.
In this perspective, mindfulness becomes therefore a fundamental instrument for coaching. the coach uses it to supply a better service. The coach suggests the coachee to adopt a mindful approach, to better satisfy his needs.
And here, mindfulness can also become an intermediate objective, in case, during the coaching process, the coachee realises that his level of presence should be improved.
nature coaching / mindfulness. piudimille.com